Do I just lack willpower when it comes to food?

And why do I keep going back to the programs even when I’ve been following intuitive eating?

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Do I Lack Willpower?

I’m going to start this blog out with a simple word.


You don’t just lack willpower.

The truth of the matter is, it’s not your lack of willpower or a character flaw that keeps you in an eating disorder.

The issue is the lack of care, how we think about and see ourselves.

We recapitulate with food all the ways we feel unworthy of receiving care and that we’re a burden.

But what happens when we’ve given ourself full permission to eat from hunger and fullness?

What Happens when we Stop Dieting?

When we make the decision to do what the intuitive eating books say to do, stop dieting, and give ourselves full permission to eat from hunger and fullness, things will go well for awhile.

What we will eventually find is that our old stuff starts to come back up.

At this point we may find that we want to go back to the programs.

But why do we do that?

You Don’t Lack Willpower

When we go off the programs and the dieting, we no longer have the same container to suppress, reject or deny all of the hurts we’ve experienced.

We’re faced with the reality of needing to deal with our stuff.

And if we don’t build a new container, we’ll go back to what we know – which is diets and programming.

So it has nothing to do with your willpower or your character.

At this point we must create and build our life by bringing in resources to build a new container.

And not one that simply holds or suppresses our trauma but one that supports us, our health and our recovery.

Build a container that is life giving.

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