I have clients that now have to grieve the effects of their eating disorder or chronic dieting, from osteoporosis to gall bladder removal. It is hard to not be upset with the body for being less resilient. I have clients who go on to be weight stable with attuned eating, only to reach a "new normal" after a pregnancy or other major life change.
Whatever is going on or however we got there, I want you to know that your body is STILL deserving of love, self-care and respect. Just because you may have to adjust your diet as you learn intuitive eating doesn't mean you are doing it wrong. I think we have to be willing to be even more compassionate if we cannot be an attuned eater as your friend might be or that you cannot eat as freely as others because of a medical condition. It just means your body may be more sensitive to food, but does not mean you cannot be attuned to that with respect. And even if your weight needed to shift to accommodate a different time in life, say during menopause or pregnancy, it is no less in need of your devotion and adoration.
We are all going to be at different levels of health and able-bodied-ness in our lives. The resource necessary for these transitions still is rooted in compassion, desire to live in an attuned, peaceful way with food and weight and the courage to keep going if others doubt your path.
I would love to hear how you have given yourself compassion for body changes. Leave your comments below.